To Everyone Who Said You Couldn't Do It

I remember being a preteen. I was standing in the doorway with my back to my exit while my "family" stared down at me. In many ways, many times, they were the naysayers in my life. I don't even know if they realized what they were doing, but being a kid I took their words and their actions to heart. If they doubted me then, it only made sense that I would doubt myself. I wish I knew then, that they were only the first in a long line of people who would doubt me. In the end though none of these people really mattered. In the end there was only one person who doubted me that mattered. And that person was me.

Before anyone else doubts us, we doubt ourselves. I realize now that most of time I put myself out of the game before I even get a chance to play. This means in terms of love relationships, friendships, academics, work and whatever else. We all do it, but why?

Here's my little input: Because we're taught that it's bad for us to be confident. Hear me out. Our culture (at least the American culture) values a humble attitude. We are taught that being humble will get people to like you. Because by being humble we are, to an extent, downing ourselves. We are telling others around us that somehow they are better. We put ourselves down so that others may put themselves above. The people that put themselves above are the ones that break from our culture. They embrace their talents, skills and have no problem showing them off once in awhile.

Now, don't get me wrong. There is a difference between being confident and being cocky. Humility is still something to be valued. However, with everything there should be moderation. Be humble, but acknowledge your unique abilities. Walk with pride, but remember there is always competition out there.

Most importantly, remember to never let the naysayers become the  "I told you so" people. Use their doubts as your motivation. Use it as your fuel because there will be nothing sweeter than looking back at them and saying "I win."

So, think back to your past. Think back to those people who didn't believe in you. Think back to those people who openly trashed you and your dreams. Think back to the times you trashed yourself and brought yourself down further than anyone else could. Think back to these times and say, "No." Because you are so much more than hurtful words and negative thoughts. You are limitless possibility.

Until next time!