Friends For A Certain Occasion

Hello, readers! So, I don't know where you all are, but here in Maryland, it's nothing but snow, snow, snow! Oh...and rain which only makes it worst. Well, on days like this there are only a few things to do. Update your blog, search the internet for interesting topics, watch all the awesome UK shows on Hulu and drink green tea. :) How else could I spend the day? Anyway, onto the topic of this blog...



It kind of saddens me to say this, but recently, I have realized that certain friends are good for certain situations. This past month I have been working at a Kohl's warehouse and of course, I made what can be termed "work friends." They are my go to group when I'm at Kohl's and despite my interactions with them being limited to the job, I believed they transcended the "work friends" boundary. Perhaps, I am too friendly which makes me naive. Why do I say this?

Well, one thing my "work friends" are good for is laughs. Our lunch breaks consist of nothing but jokes, smiles and laughter. We complain about the job, insult the managers and tease each other, all to ease the stress of our 12 hour shifts (3-5 days). Because of the good times I have spent with them I thought they were true friends. When I say true friends, I mean I could tell them anything without judgement. One day, I came into work and was not in the best mood for various reasons. Viewing them as my friends I thought I could confide in them for comfort. Biggest mistake of my life! Instead of comfort and advice, they started making jokes. And they continued to make jokes. Actually, they're still making jokes about what was bothering me that day. Of course, my feelings were hurt. Friends are suppose to help you, not insult  your emotions. Am I right? Well, this day, I learned that my work friends are only good for one thing: laughs. I can't talk to them about serious issues because they turn it into a joke at my expense. They are friends for a certain occasion.

The picture from above was taken in China. I became very close with the students I traveled with, but after returning to the US, many of them don't even talk to me. The closeness I once felt, the bonds we once had, all died after the trip. These friends were definitely ffcos.

This got me thinking about my other friends. Were they friends for certain occasions, as well? I thought about the time I spent with them. I began to wondered why we were even friends? What was our friendship based on? What, if anything, did I have in common with them? When I was in trouble and seeking advice, which friends did I turn to? Which friends did I avoid? I mean, there are times when everyone turns away from their bffs to confide in another for whatever reason, but I don't think that makes them friends for certain occasions. Does it?


Maybe, you guys can answer my question. Until next time! Can't wait to hear from you all. Ta-ta.

Your Turn: Do you have friends for certain occasions? Do you even believe in the idea or am I just over thinking all of this? What have your experiences been like with your friends? Are you now just realizing that your friends are actually ffcos? I wanna know! Don't be afraid to comment.