Ways NOT to Approach A Girl #4

Hello, readers! This is the fourth post in my little mini series "How NOT To Approach A Woman." I plan to do one or two more posts before ending series. I hope it has been helpful so far and I am sorry about not posting this sooner.
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 I meant to post it last week, but  my mind got side tracked. Anyway, on to the topic of this post. How not to approach a woman way #4: the cock!
#4:
If your mind is in the gutter, you can pull it right out! I'm using the term cock to refer to a guy that is cocky instead of confident. Many people often get these two terms confused. Cocky and confident are not at all equivalents. Confidence is more like the base or foundation of cockiness. You see the difference between these two words is simple. Being confident means strongly believing and trusting in yourself and your actions; feelings of security with oneself. Being cocky essentially means being over confident. You trust and believe in yourself so much that in the process you put down others and become blind to your own flaws (which everyone has). Confidence is sexy and subtle. Cockiness is obnoxious and gaudy. Which one do you think women prefer? It's an easy answer.

When a cocky man approaches a woman he believes, wholeheartedly, that he's going to get a date with her. There is not one doubt in his mind and this fact shows in how he speaks with her. Why is being cocky such a turn off? When a man approaches a woman the woman has most of the control. This is because she has to the power (and right) to say yes or no to the man's offer. Essentially, the ball is in her court. Women enjoy this power. We like knowing we have control over who we invite as a participant in our love lives. So, when a cocky man approaches a woman he is, in a way, taking away that power. It's like he is claiming us before we have given an answer, resulting in our objectification and conclusive "hell no."

Now, when a confident man approaches a woman, he allows her to keep her control, her power. However, simultaneously he is, also, letting her know of his own power. The woman has the power to say no, yes, but a confident man,also, has the power to find another woman. Probably, with ease. With confidence, you are showing the woman that you have something to offer. You are showing her that even though you are sure she will respond positively to your approach, you're fine with walking away if she doesn't. And it won't be any skin off your back because that's just how much you believe in yourself.

So, confidence is hot! Cocky not so much. But what about those adorable dorky guys who aren't confident? They still have good intentions, but are shy and nervous when approaching women. Well, this depends on the woman. Some women think it's cute and don't mind that they lack a little confidence. Others see it as a sign they may not be confident in other areas of their life (such as their career) and so, therefore, it is a turn off. It really all just depends! I, personally, think a nervous dorky approach is cute and sweet sometimes, but I,also, want a guy with a little back bone. Well, until next time, readers! Ta-ta!

Your Turn:  Cocky or confident? Which approach do you prefer? Which approach do you use and why? Do you love the nervous nerdy approach as much as me or am I alone over here? I wanna know! Tell me! :)