Ways NOT To Approach A Woman #5

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#5
Body language is key! Men, you may be saying all the right words, but if your body language does not match up with what you're saying, then your effort is for nothing. You see, people trust body language more than spoken words. The reason is because it's harder for a person to cover up their body language. It is easy to lie verbally, but your body language can usually give you away. Let's set up a scenario, shall we?

A man approaches a woman at a night club. He wants to ooze confidence and so, he thinks of some "oh, so, slick" lines to say. He's wearing all his name brand gear so, he think he is ready to go. However, the body will always show your true feelings. Nothing can cover that up. Anyway, he walks towards the woman, says his lines, shows off his gear and all that good stuff. Well, while his words sound so confident and cool, his body says other wise. His hands may have a slight tremor. He may have widened his eyes in a better attempt to focus. His shoulders are slacked. He may even be sweating if he is really nervous. Do you know what the woman is going to do, most likely? She's going to focus on the body language and politely decline his offer. Say all the sweet things you want to me, hun, but if you;re shaking in your boots while you;re saying it, I'm going to know that you aren't the cool cat you;re pretending to be.

So, how do you overcome the barrier of body language? You have two choices: (1) taking lots of acting classes (that's just a joke in case anyone took it seriously) or (2) allow your true feelings to be reflected through your body. If you want your body to say " I'm confident," then you need to actually feel confident. How do you do that? Well, that's a bit more complicated. All I can say is believing in yourself and being yourself are two great ways to start.

A word of advice. Do not try to imitate someone else, whether you know them in real life or if you've only seen them on the big screen. In the end you end up looking pretty cheesy. Now depending on the woman, she may find this cute and call you out on your bs or she could just politely decline like in the scenario above. Remember, with dating, relationships, love and basically all aspects of life, everything is situational. Well, until next time!

Your Turn: I wanna hear from you guys! How big of a role does body language play? Am I putting too much emphasis on it? Do you think spoken language is more important than body language? Let me know!